Coping.

Hi everyone,

My name is Shelley Chapman and I’ve been asked to write regular articles for you, as I do talks on various radio stations, to groups and also help women, all over the world via social media and my book “Menopause Matters, How to Master the Menopause, Survive, Thrive and Feel Alive” get through the menopause as easily and naturally as possible.

This stage of a woman’s life will happen to just about every female on the planet, so you’re certainly not alone. The problem, is that no-one talks about it and the help is sparse at best. That’s exactly what I found and I know how frustrating and worrying it can be.
But not here… In this magazine, I’m going to cover all sorts of symptoms, as this is the first stage of the menopause (known as peri-menopause), plus other aspects for you, because we’re not all at the same stage at the same time!

So let’s get going… You may have been to the doctor to check that there’s nothing actually ‘wrong’ with you like the beginning of Alzheimers (you keep forgetting things), or you’re so angry all the time (he put the butter back in the wrong place in the fridge, again!), or you burst into tears for no reason! You might wonder if it’s the menopause but possibly be told that you’re too young, or not in the menopause yet and maybe be offered antidepressants.

You know you feel different and to be honest, no-one knows your body better than you and this ‘what’s happening to me?’ stage can last over several years.

So, what to Expect… In your late 30’s and 40’s, your Oestrogen and Progesterone levels will start dropping (this is called the peri-menopause stage) and start re-aligning. This is in preparation of your periods stopping and when you’ll get the most symptoms. This is quite normal and is due to your hormones changing.

Your symptoms won’t all come at once, but one after the other as your body goes through this transition and it might surprise you, but if you can get your head around the fact that you’ll go through the menopause and be as prepared as you possibly can be, it’s as effective as treatment or therapy!

Just about every woman on the planet will go through this and Mother Nature will decide when it’s your turn. It’s just like puberty, but in reverse!

Depending on how many, or few symptoms you get, how quickly you get them and how long they will last, is absolutely unique to you, so please don’t compare yourself with anyone else. You are unique – we all are and the way you approach, feel and manage this stage of your life is huge.

You may need to take a look at your lifestyle and how it’s become, because a healthier and more active lifestyle will help combat the worst of the symptoms because it creates endorphins and these are your body’s natural happy hormones. So regular exercise, supplements and healthy eating can reduce a lot of your symptoms, keep you fitter and also help keep any weight gain down or to a minimum (did you know that your metabolism starts to slow down from 30 onwards?).

So the sooner you start, the better, because your body works a lot better if you’re a happier person. If you’re sad, down and unhealthy, have you noticed that you seem to become ill and have more aches and pains more often?

To be honest, how you deal with this stage of your life and the changes you make will have the biggest impact on how hard or easy it will be for you.

Now, I’ve given you enough to think about and I’ll start covering some symptoms and natural remedies/solutions next time we talk, so until then, you’re more than welcome to join my closed Facebook group where you’ll get loads of help, advice and support straight away and I look forward to talking to you next month.

Shelley x